You probably know that getting cooperation from others is necessary for the large amount of roles we have in our lives. From work, school, to family matters, getting cooperation is a key ingredient for success. How do we get instant cooperation from others? How do we start this process of teamwork within our many roles in life?
Before I get into the specifics, let’s talk a little about our resources and mentors on the subject. Luckily, many people have tried to tackle this problem of creating cooperation; some even try to go even further and teach it to the public. The idea comes from one of the books I am reading is called, “Kinesics: The Power of Silent Command” and it inspired this series. Like many of the posts before this one, I mention that if you’re more of a visual learner please check out the video at the bottom of the page.
Know What You Want to Say
Many people miss the first and most important step in creating cooperation. This step is to understand what it is you’re going to say before you say it. We’ve heard of this rule before; perhaps as an overused quote, “think before you speak”. But let’s not put off the importance of this quote in our daily conversations and important presentations. Try and think about your idea, get a clear idea of what it is that you want to say in your mind, and then speak when you feel the moment is right.
Be Simple. Be Concrete
Another important tip to gain cooperation would be, to be conscious of keeping your ideas or thoughts simple and concrete. Cooperation exists between two people who communicate well. Verbal and non-verbal communication plays a role in cooperation. Not only does simple and concrete apply to communication among coworkers, family, acquaintances, but also when communicating marketing or business ideas. Adjusting your speaking style is something you should always be conscious of, but being concrete and simple resonates with everyone. People are persuaded by what they understand from what you say. The more you speak in a way that people understand, the more they’ll resonate with you and enjoy helping you out.
Watch Your Semantics
It’s very easy to interpret things in a different way. If you understand this to be true, you can focus on creating a message that can only be interpreted the way you want. Create those simple messages and mix them with matching non-verbal gestures to create the right message. The decoder will then decode the message and understand it the way you wished.
If you follow these guidelines and start implementing them into your daily conversation, you may begin to see more people willing to be on your “team”. This will create an impression in your mind of what works when communicating. Please leave any feedback you may have or any experiences you’ve had on the subject in the comments. Until next time, keep representing the NonVerbalNoob Army well!
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